As a parent we all have the tendency to step in where we are not wanted but most of us know exactly when we are needed. We love, provide and care for any individual we see fit which includes giving advice. Most of the time our advice comes from experience, our care comes from learning and our providing comes from practice. Our main goal is to try and prevent at least one young adult in our paths from going down the same road as us. No matter what we say though somebody always takes it the wrong way and gets defensive or you are being a little too honest. Personally I have not mastered letting them admit their own problem but asking key questions that makes them think and it does not always turn out right. Example.... I was having a conversation with my oldest daughter and I asked her one simple question "Do you really think you should be more focused on that?" Immediately she got defensive and started showing irritation. I am sitting there saying to myself "Really? I only asked one question!". Now i have a million questions going through my mind and I really don't want to ask. At this point she is asking me questions and I don't know how to answer because she is already on the defense but I am saved because she won't give me a chance to answer. She never screamed or yelled but she did raise her voice slightly and that's when I over step her every time. This is a example with an adult. At work and she just can't seem to find a rhythm, so I start giving little tips like glance at each box before it gets to you. One day a box got stuck in the chute she tells the proper people and I just let her know Me:it's does that when it's dry. Her: Oh, you just know everything! Me: I pay attention to my job! What is wrong with people? Why do I feel like I am the only sane person? Why are opinions so hard to handle? Is facing the truth that hard for some people that they would rather be the aggressor? Never allow those sour apples to kill the whole tree! No matter what type of advice you give keep giving bbq it somebody may need it one day.