THE SINGLE LIFE

This post is not only for the women but Ladies let be clear on one thing you choose your men but at the same time they chose you. Obviously you know why you chose that particular man either he is cute with major swagg, has a nice smile, and had a great first appereance. Most guys pick a woman based solely on looks face and body wise. There is a saying I have learned to understand that applies to some of us male and female. If you always end up with the wrong type of man maybe you need to re-evaluate yourself! Words should not be what moves you and sex should not be a fast move it only complicates things. Take your time to get to know a person, this will not happen over a few months because you never really know somebody until you either move in together or at least spend everyday together.  What we do not get a chance to see in the beginning is the true colors.  If you meet a person on a good day everything may be fine but some of them flew straight out of the coo coos nest and don't know which way is up. When everything seems just right there will always be a flaw that you do not like because you are looking for something wrong because its just too right. What a lot of people do not understand is when you are looking for something wrong you will find it even if there is nothing there. Instead of looking for wrongs take the time and pay close attention to your partner or as I say sit back and watch the show. Body language is the truth and tell of all relationships regardless if the relationship is a friendship. Paying attention to your surroundings and reading in-between the lines can save you so much time because it will give you a clear view of what may be going on. Be optimistic but not dumbfounded, Honest but not open and forgive but don't forget! Never allow your partner or spouse to feel as though they have the upper hand! Today a relationship is 50/50 regardless of who is the bread winner, each person shares the responsibility of the relationship and nobody in the relationship should carry more than the next. Before getting too serious in a relationship you may want to ask yourself
1. Am I really ready for a commitment?
2. Is this person right for my life?
3. Do I really want to deal w the extra things that may come w them?
4. Do I really want to go through figuring out another person?
You might want to question them as well just to make sure you are on the same page. When meeting new people be careful because you will have some crazies and almost put together addicts approach you even if you not interested and some of them do not give up easily. Good luck you guys and have an eventful week.

The time you have is always useful

Take advantage of the time you have do not let one second go to waste. If you do this is what the outcome will be! I did this style myself, no one helped me part it or anything. To get to this point you have to take the time and practice and focus on what you are doing. Stop letting your talents go to waste and use what you have to keep the money going. I started braiding my own hair when I was only 14 years old. Currently I can do my own sew-ins, micros, pixies,etc. If you have any children you shows just a little talent in anything allow them to express it. Do not limit yourself or your kids and stay focused on what you want to do. Each one of us have a special talent that we may or may not harness but this is proof that if you believe in yourself you can do anything.

Being a single mother of 3

After years of being with the same guy it is kind of hard dating again. Especially when you were head over heels in love with him! I would not consider it to be appropriate for me to catch feelings for another man because I am still in love with the previous one. To stay true to myself I took six months to think about stepping out and going on a date. I have been approached by all types of guys and none of them were my type. First off, if you broke and I am broke the only thing we can do is be broke together because you not looking for a job and I will play broke till the wheels fall off! I am not taking care of a grown ass man who is well and able enough to do for himself. Secondly, I refuse to deal with your drug,drinking,or pill popping habits. I understand that there may be something deeper causing these habits but I am not a psychiatrist. One person can not help another if they are not willing to help themselves. Granted us as humans have no room to judge another but we all have choices. I am a individual  who loves to make her own choices or decisions abduction I refuse to puck up a man who just might be a burden or try to hold me back. Having a strong core allows me to weed out who is good enough to get my time or company.

Making major moves

I had the opportunity to finally get my own home in another state. I was in a relationship at the time so this was supposed be a family move. My so called boyfriend decided at the last minute that he was not gonna come without telling me. He did not help me get there even though he had transportation because he did not want to take a day off. So i got on a bus with a one way ticket, no money, no place to stay and i made the best of it. Now that i am in my home and not with him he claims to miss me, love me and he never showed either emotion when i was there. So do i let my heart get cold towards him or should i let him know what he has done and continue to work on it?