THE SINGLE LIFE

This post is not only for the women but Ladies let be clear on one thing you choose your men but at the same time they chose you. Obviously you know why you chose that particular man either he is cute with major swagg, has a nice smile, and had a great first appereance. Most guys pick a woman based solely on looks face and body wise. There is a saying I have learned to understand that applies to some of us male and female. If you always end up with the wrong type of man maybe you need to re-evaluate yourself! Words should not be what moves you and sex should not be a fast move it only complicates things. Take your time to get to know a person, this will not happen over a few months because you never really know somebody until you either move in together or at least spend everyday together.  What we do not get a chance to see in the beginning is the true colors.  If you meet a person on a good day everything may be fine but some of them flew straight out of the coo coos nest and don't know which way is up. When everything seems just right there will always be a flaw that you do not like because you are looking for something wrong because its just too right. What a lot of people do not understand is when you are looking for something wrong you will find it even if there is nothing there. Instead of looking for wrongs take the time and pay close attention to your partner or as I say sit back and watch the show. Body language is the truth and tell of all relationships regardless if the relationship is a friendship. Paying attention to your surroundings and reading in-between the lines can save you so much time because it will give you a clear view of what may be going on. Be optimistic but not dumbfounded, Honest but not open and forgive but don't forget! Never allow your partner or spouse to feel as though they have the upper hand! Today a relationship is 50/50 regardless of who is the bread winner, each person shares the responsibility of the relationship and nobody in the relationship should carry more than the next. Before getting too serious in a relationship you may want to ask yourself
1. Am I really ready for a commitment?
2. Is this person right for my life?
3. Do I really want to deal w the extra things that may come w them?
4. Do I really want to go through figuring out another person?
You might want to question them as well just to make sure you are on the same page. When meeting new people be careful because you will have some crazies and almost put together addicts approach you even if you not interested and some of them do not give up easily. Good luck you guys and have an eventful week.