In today's world I can't help but wonder if the morals have changed? We have adults scared of kids and it's way more than before. Technically if you can't control your child then obviously you need some help whether it's family or professional. Show these children that there is more to life than stressing about bills, relationship issues, etc. What they see you going through is what they will try to avoid by any means necessary. I am not saying it's easy to do all I'm saying is don't be afraid to ask for help. Just because you get help does not mean you are not independent. Back in the day it took a village to raise a child but today the village has been broken down because loyalty and trust are missing in life. You can not trust just anybody and that is understandable but don't hinder your success because of your insecurities and pride. Accept your faults and understand you are not perfect and neither is your child!