who is waiting for you

 Some people have no clue what they want, and they have lost their person because of it. When they finally realize what is happening, they start to question themselves and what they want. Mentally they are confused and know that you are their person and still make drastic decisions based off of only them. Those decisions leave them in a whirlwind of questions with no real answers. sometimes they expect for you to be patient with them and wait while others just up and leave and try to come back later. Either way, not one person should even waste their energy and wait for anyone. You have so many other options available to explore and take your time with to find the one who will cherish your energy. I know dating nowadays can be a headache but why hinder yourself from something that may be a blessing to you. 

From my own personal perspective, I love hard and when I do fall for someone it is not easy to move on. It takes time and these men do not give you that. They do what they can to try and pressure you into doing what they want and could care less how it makes you feel. After eight years in a relationship with a younger man who should have been off limits, I refuse to allow another man close enough to me to hurt me. Anything that may cause any type of bond, I refuse to do it with any man who does not want to put in the work for my love. 

You cannot come into my life and expect me to just fall in line with what you want or how you feel while ignoring me. I will not respect any man who has an ego bigger than him. I refuse to lower my standards to make a man's dream life come true. I refuse to carry all the weight of the relationship while he sits back and watch me drain myself. I will not build a bond doing anything with anyone at this point, so do not ask. 

These are all reasons why we should not wait for anyone to decide that we are enough in their life because we know our worth and how we want to be treated. Never allow anyone to blind you with the rainbows and sunny skies that happen in the beginning. If they do not know let them figure it out on their own.