You never know how much you love a person until that person is not there. When they are you find all kinds of things that bother you but never want to leave. It's always the little things that make you happy, the little attitudes that bug you, the small but damaging words they may say to you. Through it all you stay because the annoyance is real but not enough. Although they annoy you, they make you feel seen, loved, and appreciated in their own little way. At the time you may not see it, but it is definitely there. You may only see the negative ways they treat you because that was not a part of your vision. Just that alone is hard to bear because you know what you deserve, have done or need. Either party may feel inadequate due to treatments rendered by both.
Sometimes you just have to listen and act on what you heard. you cannot expect someone to honor what you want if you can't honor theirs. It goes both ways, in order for a relationship to work there has to be a meeting point. One individual can't be the only one making sacrifices for the success of the other. Both dreams are equally important. Not one person is more important than the other and no one should feel that way. Annoyance turns to silence and silence turns to anger. Noone is perfect in a relationship, each individual has their faults, the right person knows what to do without having to be told.
One thing I can say is careful who you do vent to in your relationship because everybody is not happy for you. Some people will tell you whatever they feel like you need to hear to come between you and your person. Your person may be gullible to certain people as well as you and allow them to plant little seeds to breakdown your love. Some people allow for their own wants and need to interfere with love because they know what they want. As long as the decision is that persons and only theirs, respect their choice and deal with your hurt.
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